How can we built a confidence in child.

How can we built a confidence in child? 

Why is it crucial to support kids in gaining confidence?

To be confident is just to believe in oneself. For a child's future success, happiness, and health, confidence is essential. Children who are confident are better able to handle challenges, frustrations, peer pressure, and both good and negative emotions. 

The foundation for building a child's confidence is provided by their parents and teachers. There's no reason to freak out; helping a child gain confidence shouldn't be difficult or frightening. It can also be done as a task. 

To be confident is just to have faith in oneself. However, from where does this assurance originate? Building a trustworthy relationship with your child is the first step. Your relationship with your child builds a solid basis for them to learn about the outside world. Children between the ages of 4 and 10 develop their emotional and social skills. 

Shakespeare says that, "I have seen beautiful sights in the world, but there is no scene more beautiful than this scene that I can see a child with confidence”. 

Here are some strategies to increase children’s confidence. 

1: Do not scold your child in front of others. 

A child is sensitive, he also has his own personality. If the child makes a mistake in front of the guests, don't start scolding him in front of the guests. By doing this, the child's self-confidence is hurt and he hesitates to face people. He may feel that if he makes any mistake, his parents will insult him in front of everyone. 

2. Praise the child. 

Children need to feel valued and respected for their efforts, since this will strengthen and improve the consistency of their learning. Working hard towards a goal and feeling good about it are the foundations of self-esteem. The child feels inspired when he sees that his efforts are being recognized. It develops self-worth. By praising them, you are modelling positive self-talk and thought processes for your child. When your child does well, you are teaching him to be proud of himself. Additionally, his family is proud of it. 

3. Never make comparisons with your siblings or others. 

Comparing a child with other siblings creates a sense of inferiority in the child when he sees that his efforts are not being recognized, the child begins to doubt his own ups. 

Your child will not be satisfied with what they have and will constantly compare their lives and themselves with others as this behavior fosters a competitive nature in children. 

In my home, I have witnessed instances where a child begins to despise the sibling or child whom the child is being compared to and tries to damage his things. A child's own personality is affected. A feeling of hatred towards siblings starts to develop. Even mental abilities are likely to be affected. So with siblings or with any other child, comparison should be avoided, even though it is human nature and cannot be denied.

 4. Spend some time with kids. 

Make sure to spend some of your precious time with the child; this will make the child feel that he is also valuable and important. It boosts his confidence. As a parent, you can teach your child to develop self-confidence through specific skills like problem-solving and communication. Take the child out for fun, eat with them, and be a child for a moment. Do an activity that allows you and your child to spend time together.

 Remember that confidence only grows with the knowledge that your loved ones are valued and appreciated. 

5. Pay close attention to what kids have to say. 

Parental attention is a powerful tool. When you pay attention to your child, you are bringing your child closer to your heart with trust. If your child wants to talk to you, listen to your child attentively while keeping aside all your other commitments so that he feels that his words and personality are very important to you as a parent.

 If you ignore the child, the child may take negative actions to get attention. Like breaking things, fighting with siblings, yelling, ruining your things so that you are attracted to him in one way or another, even if the child has to be scolded or yelled at. By doing this, the child's self-esteem is affected and at the same time he becomes scared and shy and becomes a loner. He begins to feel that no one realizes him and that he is not important to anyone. No one understands him. 

6. Always use motivational phrases. 

It is important to understand that language needs words. A small word from the tongue sometimes has a big impact and children are going through a learning process. Positive and pleasant words improve a person's personality, while negative words make a person's personality worse. 

Giving your children a few encouraging words every day will help their mental development and increase their moral strength. 

Positive phrases will make children feel better about themselves, and gain more self-esteem. Children will develop self-esteem as they get older, which is a very good thing. Give your children a few encouraging words every day. This will create a happy, stimulating home environment. These phrases also teach children to love, encourage, and be compassionate with everyone. 

This will change children's self-perceptions for the better. In turn, this will help them build self-esteem. Children who hear these encouraging words have higher self-esteem, which allows them to recover more quickly from setbacks and develop perseverance and a desire to succeed. 

7. Call the child with loved names. 

Give the child a loving look from time to time and smile when the baby looks back at you. Call the kid several times a day with loving names such as my Prince/ Princes, My Superhero, My Sweetu, My Star, My champ etc. 

By doing this, the youngster will gain confidence and motivation, and he will be able to perform better and better. 

8. Motivate them to take risks in order to learn new abilities. 

To make someone willing to take a risk, you need to have a relationship of trust with him, he trust you. Before you can encourage someone to take a risk, you have to build a relationship of trust and rapport with him. 

And if it's a child, as a parent it is your duty to encourage the child to take risks and achieve success, failure can lead to testing new ideas and exploring personal abilities and limitations. In this way children can overcome fear and become interested in learning new skills. When children begin to trust their caregivers, they actually feel confident in their own abilities, and are able to take the risks necessary to learn new skills. With the help and encouragement of caregivers, children strive to master new skills and when they succeed, they develop feelings of pride and self-esteem. 

Children who take risks are better prepared to handle difficult circumstances, which enhances their wellbeing. Children can take risks through play, and by planning their play, they can improve their skills and learn emotional regulation. You can also share personal anecdotes with kids about your experiences. Tales of achievement or of conquering adversity and escaping tense circumstances can aid in relieving a child's doubt, dread, and anxiety. 

9. Give children the freedom to choose. 

Dr. Maria Montesori said, "The child must have complete freedom of choice and then they need nothing but repeated experiences." Offering options to young children fosters selfexpression and a sense of control over their daily routines. 

Children become more capable of making decisions for themselves and gain more self-assurance and trust. During this process, keep in mind that the child should only be presented with two or three options; the choices should be simple and suitable for their age, like selecting between two pairs of clothes. selecting two dishes, engaging in a game of their choosing, teaching them to distinguish between different places, and selecting their own food. Don't be the child's boss or give him commands.